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The Mental Health Consequences of New Year’s Resolutions

The year 2024 is coming to an end. Through everything, we have made it here! This is the time of year when we start reviewing how the year has gone and we start looking towards the new year. There are things we want to change or things we want to have stay the same. Many of us make resolutions to achieve these things. But are New Year’s Resolutions always the best answer? 

Why We Make Resolutions

Usually, we’re inspired to make these changes in our lives for some reason or another. Maybe we want to get healthier in some way or change habits we feel are holding us back. For some of us, we want to set some kind of goal in a skill we already have. For others, they want to gain a new skill. 

We make resolutions because we want to better ourselves in some way. But we also make them so that we can look back on the year and note if we’ve made positive progress towards something. It’s important to many people to feel as if they’ve done something good for themselves or pushed to become a better version of themselves. 

However, we also put a lot of pressure on ourselves because of the social importance of New Year’s Day. 

Why Many of us Fail 

That pressure we put on ourselves is a big contributing factor! We focus less on why we made the goal or resolution in the first place and more on how we’ll feel at the end of the year if we fail. This just sets us up for failure because we’re being motivated by fear and shame instead of something positive. 

Another reason is that many of us set vague resolutions and not measurable goals. What does “get healthier” really mean? This is so difficult to measure and understand that it can seem as if we’ve made no progress towards this goal, even if we have! It’s important to set specific goals because of this. The seeming lack of progress can be really disheartening for someone who is working hard towards something. 

Negative Mental Health Consequences of Resolutions

When we “fail” at fulfilling our New Year’s resolutions, it can feel as if we’re just stuck. Some of us can feel as if we’ll never achieve anything, never fix a bad habit, or never realize our dreams. This is incredibly difficult to deal with, especially year after year, and it can lead to anxiety and depression in some people. These negative feelings and thoughts can be really detrimental to many people. 

If we’ve failed at these same resolutions before, the anticipatory failure can also contribute to greater anxiety and depression. It can be something we dread every year and yet we still set the same goals and approach them in the same way. This generally isn’t good for most people’s mental health and it’s why many of us feel so badly by mid-March. 

There’s also an issue with the “new year, new me” approach. This encourages us to make so many changes all at once that it becomes overwhelming. This isn’t a sustainable or long-term way of approaching making positive changes in our lives. Small, incremental changes make for much better and long-lasting effects in our lives. 

Is it Possible to Set and Achieve Resolutions?

Of course! Not only is it possible in general, but it’s also possible to approach them in a healthier way that can contribute to better mental health, not worse. In next week’s blog post, we’ll be discussing how to go about setting New Year’s Goals as opposed to New Year’s Resolutions. Not that you need to set goals around a specific time! 

That’s another important thing to remember. Sometimes the best time to start working towards a new goal is June 27th, May 18th, or even December 3rd. The point is that the best time to start working towards goals is the time that you’re ready to. Trying to push yourself to set and achieve goals based on a certain day of the year is just setting yourself up for trying to achieve something you may not be mentally ready for, which sets you up for failure. 

Resources:

https://centerstone.org/our-resources/health-wellness/how-new-years-resolutions-impact-mental-health/

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/new-years-resolutions

https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/news/are-your-new-years-resolutions-faltering

https://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/why-not-to-make-a-new-years-resolution

https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2020/01/realistic-new-years-resolutions-for-your-mental-health/

https://www.nami.org/people/mental-health-resolutions-for-the-new-year/

https://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/apa-blogs/americans-top-5-new-years-resolutions

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Transition Stress: The Anxiety of Change and How to Cope

As we approach the end of the year, there’s so many things on our minds. Many of us are planning holiday parties or get togethers. Many are wondering what to gift, make, or how they’ll spend their time. And often we think about changes we want to make in our lives. The end of the year really makes us sit and think about things ending, changing, or transitioning. Of course it can make us excited or hopeful but these transitions can also be stressful. 

Why Do Transitions Feel So Stressful?

The short answer is that we don’t really love change, even if change is good for us. It can be difficult to go from thinking about something one way to then thinking about it a new way. It takes time to adjust to that and it can be stressful, depending on what it is. And if the changes we’re implementing come with new routines or schedules, that can make things even more difficult for us. 

We love patterns. It’s how our brains evolved to work and finding patterns in things makes us comfortable. There’s safety in knowing what’s going to happen next. If it’s a transition we weren’t expecting or had no choice over, it can add a feeling of helplessness and loss of control that makes it difficult to cope. This can cause some serious anxiety when thinking about the transition or changes that are coming. 

What Kind of Transitions Can Affect Us?

Technically, anything that brings change to our lives can affect us and stress us out. Moving, changing jobs, having a baby, and getting married tend to be the big ones that people think about. But consider how for children, the end of the year signals the end of a school semester. For some of them, it means potentially not having friends in any of their classes when the new semester starts. Maybe it means a new teacher they’re never met before. Even though these things aren’t necessarily bad, they can absolutely affect someone’s mental health. 

Making changes to our health can also cause stress. Maybe you’re cutting back on caffeine. Some people experience withdrawals from this that can be pretty unpleasant, including headaches. It also means a change in your routine of not going to the coffee shop as often or making something different in the morning to drink at home. These are little things that can add up if you’re already struggling with other things. 

Is There Anything We Can Do?

We can’t avoid change, not forever. Change is good for us in the long run even if it doesn’t feel good at the moment. Some stress management techniques can help in the moment for dealing with these uncomfortable feelings. We’ve explored some of these techniques in a previous post about grounding techniques. These can be used if you feel overwhelmed or very anxious due to these changes. 

Another option is to talk to someone you trust. Leaning on social supports during times of transition can be especially helpful. They often understand the impact these things can have on you and are likely to be able to support you through tough transitions. They can be there to remind you of the reasons this will be good in the end and they can also help you cope. 

However, if talking to a loved one doesn’t help, consider reaching out to a therapist. Many people go to therapy just to help cope with transitions and changes. It can help to get someone neutral to chime in on what’s going on and to help listen to you. 

Change doesn’t have to be difficult to cope with long term and there are options out there for help dealing with them. But do remember that it’s normal to struggle with change and that it’s normal to be anxious during these moments. 

Resources:

https://blog.calm.com/blog/transition-anxiety

https://balancedthoughtstherapy.com/blog/why-are-transitions-so-stressful

https://bettertogethertherapy.co/what-are-the-psychological-effects-of-transition

https://www.crusescotland.org.uk/about-us/news-and-blogs/the-impact-of-transitions-and-how-to-cope-with-them

https://marblewellness.com/post/why-are-life-transitions-so-hard-navigating-change-with-resilience/

https://manhattancbt.com/life-transitions/

https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/how-to-manage-anxiety-during-periods-of-transition#definition

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The Mental Health Benefits of Counseling

Almost every week, we mention how speaking to a therapist or counselor can be of benefit for addressing a variety of needs. However, this is the first time we’ll be addressing the benefits of counseling more closely. Of course it can be used to address specific mental health disorders but it also has more far reaching benefits than just helping people to cope with mental illness.

What is Therapy?

Therapy, or counseling, often refers to talk-therapy or talk-psychotherapy. This is a form of treatment which involves speaking to a trained professional about a problem you’re having. The professional then uses evidence based practices to help you build skills to then address whatever concern brought you to therapy.

One of the main benefits of counseling is that there is no one size fits all approach. There are so many different forms of therapy. For example, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is one of the most well-known forms. And many people often think of psychodynamic or psychoanalytic therapy when they first imagine therapy (you know, Freud and a couch). 

However, there is also ACT, DBT, EMDR, ERT, and many, many more. Many of these forms of therapy were developed to target specific mental disorders or problems that people may be having. Motivational Interviewing (MI), for example, was developed for addressing substance use disorder. 

What Does Therapy Help With?

There are many benefits of counseling to consider. Of course, it can help with mental illness, such as depression or anxiety disorders. However, it can also help with things like coping with grief or loss, dealing with stress, handling transitions, and other issues people may be facing. 

Therapy can also help with working on self-esteem, problem solving skills, self-confidence, and coping with rough patches in your life. Most people who go to therapy only do so for a short period of time, usually to help resolve a current issue such as the death of a loved one. 

People also seek out therapy to help with communication skills, relationship problems, and for help addressing conflicts they may be facing in life. 

How Do I Find a Therapist?

Word of mouth is an excellent way of finding a therapist. Ask around and see if you can get recommendations from doctors or people you know who have gone to therapy. Your insurance provider is also a great resource for finding a therapist as that will be the easiest way to insure that the cost of your sessions will be covered. 

We have a large list of clinicians here that are also an option for those looking into the benefits of counseling and considering getting counseling themselves. 

Resources:

https://www.avila.edu/2022/12/13/5-benefits-of-working-with-a-mental-health-counselor/

https://www.coe.edu/student-life/health-wellness/mental-health-counseling/potential-benefits-counseling

https://www.harmonyridgerecovery.com/10-benefits-of-mental-health-counseling

https://www.healthline.com/health/benefits-of-therapy

https://www.mhanational.org/therapy

https://positivepsychology.com/counseling-process

https://online.sbu.edu/news/5-ways-mental-health-counseling-builds-stronger-communities

https://www.verywellhealth.com/benefits-of-therapy-5219732

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The Importance of Work-Life Balance

A lot of people struggle with having proper balance between their lives and their work. It can be easy, especially in our always on the go, keep pushing for more, and goals/financially motivated society to feel like work is allowed to take over our lives. But a work-life balance is important. There are a lot of potential negative consequences that can happen when we don’t prioritize our lives outside of work more than or at least as much as our lives at work. 

What IS a Work-Life Balance, Anyways?

Simply put, work-life balance is when you’re able to balance your work priorities and obligations with the things you both need and want to do outside of work. It means meeting your deadlines or work goals while also investing time in yourself, getting things done at home, and spending time with the ones you love. 

This is going to look different for everyone! We all have our own hierarchy for what matters most to us. This can also change over our lives. What we prioritize at 25 is likely going to look different for when we’re 35. So this is definitely something to assess over time to make sure your work-life still aligns with your needs, values, and goals. 

Consequences of Being Out of Balance

Stress, to put it simply, can be one of the most immediate consequences of not having a good work-life balance. Stress can then go on to affect us in other ways. 

Like:

  • Irritability
  • Depression
  • Aches and pains, like headaches
  • Stomach problems
  • Relationship issues
  • Productivity problems
  • More likely to become ill 
  • Blood pressure and other heart problems
  • Exacerbate chronic health conditions
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Problems with eating (too much or too little)
  • Overspending or risky behavior to cope with stress
  • Substance use (like drinking more than usual) to cope with stress
  • Burnout

And that’s not even an exhaustive list! However, it’s clear to see how having a poor work-life balance can affect you not just at home, but at work, too. Looking at the list, it makes it clear how counterproductive it is to focus solely on work at the expense of your mental and physical health. It’ll only affect your work poorly, too!

What Can I Do?

Working on achieving a better work-life balance is going to depend pretty heavily on your specific goals and priorities. However, the first step will be the same for everyone. Step back and really consider how you spend your time every day and every week. Are you happy with it? What areas do you wish you could spend more time in? Is it hobbies, family, or something else? Once you have answers to these questions, it’s easy to see where to tweak things to bring things more in balance with what you personally are looking for in life.

For example, if you feel like you bring work home with you a lot, either literally (finishing paperwork, emailing, etc) or mentally (worrying about projects, thinking about responsibilities, etc) then it may be time to consider setting some boundaries around work when you’re at home. If it’s simply not possible to not bring physical work home with you, set yourself a time limit for how much you’ll spend on it each day. This can help you balance out how you spend the rest of your day.

Do you feel overwhelmed with what you have to do at home? Enlist help from those who live with you, if possible. Splitting up chores so it doesn’t all fall on one or two people who also have busy work lives can really help with alleviating the feelings of “work never ends”, even if it isn’t your job that seems to be following you around. 

If you feel comfortable and safe to, talk to your boss or co-workers. You may be surprised to know that others at work also feel the same way you do. Working together to come up with a better workplace culture that can support a healthier work-life balance for everyone can be more effective than trying to tackle it alone. 

If even after working on getting your life more balanced you still feel like you’re struggling with stress, overwhelm, depression, or other negative feelings then consider reaching out to a therapist. 

Resources:

https://www.camh.ca/en/camh-news-and-stories/achieving-work-life-balance

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/burnout/art-20046642

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/a-z-topics/work-life-balance

https://mhanational.org/4mind4body-work-life-balance

https://www.mhanational.org/work-life-balance

https://oaksintcare.org/how-work-life-balance-impacts-mental-health/

https://www.webmd.com/balance/balancing-work-and-family

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Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Can Affect Anyone

May was Mental Health Awareness Month and on our socials, we shared information about different mental health topics throughout last month. These blog posts are part of a series where we expand on those topics and offer more information. 

Post-traumatic stress disorder, more commonly known as PTSD, is a mental health disorder that develops as a response to a traumatic event. Currently, we’re not sure what exactly causes PTSD, as most people who experience trauma do not develop PTSD. We do know that people who were assigned female at birth are much more likely to develop PTSD than those who were assigned male at birth. We also have current statistics for PTSD: 3.6% of the US adult population has PTSD with 37% of those with PTSD having severe symptoms. It usually develops within months of the traumatic event and symptoms can last months, years, or even be life-long. Treatment is critical for helping to manage these systems. 

Traumatic events that have been linked to development of PTSD are: sexual assault, abuse, witnessing a death, combat/war, terrorist attacks, being in an accident, and even experiencing the trauma of a loved one second hand. 

Often, the symptoms are broken down into four main categories: re-experiencing, avoidance, cognitive/mood, and arousal. 

Re-experiencing:

  • Recurring, intrusive thoughts about the event
  • Flashbacks
  • Bad dreams
  • Intrusive memories
  • Avoidance:
    • Avoiding the place where it happened
    • Avoiding people who remind you of the event
    • Avoiding objects or other things that remind you of the event
  • Cognitive/Mood:
    • Memory problems related to the event
    • Negative self-image or thoughts
    • Guilt or shame
    • Numbness or depression
    • Anxiety
    • Derealization
    • Dissociation
  • Arousal:
    • Hypervigilance
    • Easily startled
    • Difficulty concentrating
    • Sleep disturbances
    • Irritability

Children have also been diagnosed with PTSD and we often see them develop it in response to many of the same situations that adults do. However, they can show some different symptoms such as:

  • Regression (for example, a toilet-trained child suddenly wetting the bed)
  • Unusual and sudden clinginess (usually to a parent or another trusted adult)
  • Re-enacting the traumatic events through play

Early diagnosis and treatment is critical for the best possible outcome for an individual with PTSD. This can help with reducing the severity of symptoms or even eliminating some of them entirely. Treatment can help the individual get back to a healthy level of everyday functioning and help them manage symptoms such as nightmares, flashbacks, and many of the other distressing symptoms of PTSD.

Treatments generally include medications, such as SSRIs, and therapy. Therapy usually consists of some form of CBT (like exposure therapy and recognitive structuring) and EMDR. Learning self-management techniques is also critical to successful therapy, such as the ability to self-soothe and use mindfulness strategies. 

PTSD can co-occur with other disorders like depression, OCD, panic disorder, and substance use disorder. Often, treating these disorders co-currently is the best way to see improvement, as PTSD improves with the treatment of OCD, for example, and OCD improves with the treatment of PTSD.

Want help with PTSD? Look at our list of clinicians and contact us to book an appointment.

Resources:

https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd

https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/Posttraumatic-Stress-Disorder

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd#part_6135

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is-ptsd

https://www.samhsa.gov/mental-health/post-traumatic-stress-disorder

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When Worrying Takes Over: Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Our next post for Mental Health Awareness Month, which was in May, is going to focus on generalized anxiety disorder, or GAD. On our socials, we covered these topics during May and these blog posts are part of that series, expanding on those topics and giving more information. According to WHO, 4% of the global population experience an anxiety disorder. And NIMH reports that 20% of adults in the US have an anxiety disorder. There are many different kinds of anxiety disorders but GAD is the most common. However, there is concern that GAD is actually underdiagnosed because of societal stigma and lack of education about anxiety disorders. Due to the fact that many symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder feel primarily physical as opposed to purely psychological, many people mistake their symptoms for signs of a physical ailment.

It generally develops in adulthood, around age 30, but it is common across all age groups, including children. It’s diagnosed twice as often in women and people assigned female at birth, though at this time it’s unclear why. Some research suggests that societal factors could play a role in this.

Risk factors for developing generalized anxiety disorder include: experiencing child abuse or trauma, having a chronic illness, living with a lot of stress, and substance use (such as: alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, and recreational drugs). It often co-occurs with other mental health disorders, such as major depressive disorder, or MDD, which we described in a previous post. 

Symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder

There are many symptoms of GAD to look out for. If any of these symptoms interfere with your daily life or relationships, it could be time to seek out a diagnosis and treatment. Symptoms must be present for at least 6 months:

  • Worry excessively about everyday things
  • Have trouble controlling their worries or feelings of nervousness
  • Know that they worry much more than they should
  • Feel restless and have trouble relaxing
  • Have a hard time concentrating
  • Startle easily
  • Have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
  • Tire easily or feel tired all the time
  • Have headaches, muscle aches, stomachaches, or unexplained pains
  • Have a hard time swallowing
  • Tremble or twitch
  • Feel irritable or “on edge”
  • Sweat a lot, feel lightheaded, or feel out of breath
  • Have to go to the bathroom frequently
  • Children and teens are more likely to worry about school performance and the health of loved ones

Treatment

Generalized anxiety disorder is very treatable, even in chronic cases. However, it is important to seek out treatment as soon as possible to ensure the best outcome. There are a variety of treatments including medications, therapy, and some complementary additions someone can use to help their GAD along with other treatments. Medications, such as SSRIs, SNRIs, and buspirone are commonly prescribed to help treat GAD. Benzodiazepines were once a common treatment but are no longer generally recommended due to concerns about dependency and limited long-term effectiveness. CBT and ACT are common forms of therapy used, often in conjunction with medication, to treat GAD. 

There are also complementary changes someone can make that can be added to the above treatments. For example, some lifestyle changes like limiting caffeine and nicotine, can help reduce anxiety symptoms. Mindfulness like meditation and journaling are also often recommended. Getting enough sleep, exercise, and joining support groups for those also experiencing anxiety are commonly added as recommendations to traditional treatments. 

With proper treatment, many people go on to be able to return to their normal routines and regain functioning and quality of life. The earlier the treatment, the more quickly someone can return to their lives and the more effective treatments are likely to be.

Resources:

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23940-generalized-anxiety-disorder-gad

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/generalized-anxiety-disorder-gad#part_6119

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK441870

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/anxiety-disorders

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